Samy asks James,

Did you use a pick up line to meet your wife? If so, (or even if not) what pick up lines would you suggest to use?

A pick-up line? Are you serious? The assumption there would be that I picked up the girl who would become my future spouse. No way!

Which brings me right into this: Pick-up lines are stupid, lame, dumb, dumb and stupid. Don’t use them. Ever. Even if they work, is that really what you want to tell your kids about when they ask how you met mom?

“Well sweetie, I went right up to her and said, ‘Do your feet hurt? Cause you’ve been running through my mind all day!’ and she jumped right into my arms… and a stork brought you 8 months later. Sorry we’re to young to afford food.”

Who would even want a girl that pick-up lines work on? Some poor broken girl who has no self-worth who will talk with someone because they found some catchy phrase on the internet? No thanks! Pick-up lines remind me of church sign slogans. They’re both funny, but in a super-corny way… and neither one really ever work. Verbal spam.

So how do you get a cool girl to talk to you? Just be yourself! When it’s time, it’ll happen. The moment you finally give up looking… it’ll just happen. In the mean time focus your energy on school, family, friends, the present, the here-and-now. Tomorrow will be here soon enough. It’ll take care of itself.

For more information on meeting “the one” (ha!) check out the latest episode of Geek Loves Nerd!

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